Do I need to remember everything from my past to do this work?

No. The aim is not to revisit or relive — it's to loosen the grip that earlier experiences still have on your present. We go at your pace and you decide what to bring forward, when.

What if I'm not sure my experiences count as trauma?

That uncertainty is welcome. Many people carry the effects of emotional neglect, inconsistency, or chronic stress without ever calling it trauma. We don't need a label to begin.

Is this for people with diagnosed PTSD?

It can be, but most of my work is with relational and developmental trauma — the quieter kind that shapes patterns rather than producing flashbacks.

Specialisation · Pillar

Trauma & attachment

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Relational trauma refers to the lasting emotional and physical effects of difficult early relationships — neglect, inconsistency, or feeling unsafe with the people who were meant to care for us — which can shape how we relate to ourselves and others long into adulthood.

How it shows up

It often doesn't look like "trauma". It looks like people-pleasing, a harsh inner critic, difficulty trusting, fear of being too much or not enough, or relationships that keep echoing the same painful patterns. It can look like a body that won't settle, sleep that won't come, or a quiet exhaustion underneath everything you achieve.

How I work with it

We work gently and at your pace — there is no pressure to revisit anything before you feel ready. The aim is not to relive the past but to loosen its grip on your present. We pay attention to both the story and the body underneath the story.

Is this you?

If you nod to even one — that's enough reason to talk.

I'm the one people lean on, but nobody really sees what I'm carrying.
I read every room before I read myself.
I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship — and I don't quite know why.

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Common questions

Do I need to remember everything from my past to do this work?: No. The aim is not to revisit or relive — it's to loosen the grip that earlier experiences still have on your present. We go at your pace and you decide what to bring forward, when.
What if I'm not sure my experiences count as trauma?: That uncertainty is welcome. Many people carry the effects of emotional neglect, inconsistency, or chronic stress without ever calling it trauma. We don't need a label to begin.
Is this for people with diagnosed PTSD?: It can be, but most of my work is with relational and developmental trauma — the quieter kind that shapes patterns rather than producing flashbacks.